To be an Iyashi-kei girl
I listen to the word “Iyashi (癒し/soothing, healing, comforting)” while I was in Japan. It´s not new, it has been around quite a while. Some people may feel healed by a glass of cold beer after a long-hour work. Some maybe soothed their rough feelings by putting aromatic candle. Anything that comforts their tired, lowed and stressed feeling is Iyashi. As far as I see, Japanese people tend to look for Iyashi moments of goods.
In a relationship, this also applies. Japanese men are known as hard workers and only they want to see or be with after work is someone who comforts them rather than stresses them. They look for Iyashi-kei girls (Iyashi type girls/ 癒し系).
On the other hand, girls who are not Iyashi-kei may have less chance to get a partner. It seems like if a Japanese girl wants to find a boyfriend, she may need to make efforts to convert a Iyashi-kei.
Here is the instruction of a way to Iyashi-kei girl.
What men look for from a woman is healing. No man wants to be with a woman who makes him tired. It´s difficult for a woman to be popular among men if she has no sense of serenity nor security.
Today I like to teach you how to be a Iyashi-kei girl who becomes popular among boys.
To smile that gives men Iyashi, make sure your corners of the eyes go downwards and the corners of the mouth go up. Attractive smile can be trained although the most important thing is to be a smiley person all the time.
If a man thinks, “this girl is always smiling and her smile eases me”, you win. He will have a good impression of you as an Iyashi-kei girl from the first sight. Oh, don´t forget to smile looking into his eyes.
- Be Motherly
All men love his mother. In other word, all men are mommy´s boys. Therefore, the women who are motherly attract men. For example, the girl who always has plasters or puts up an umbrella over you when a sudden shower catches you. Men like a girl who takes care of him even though she says, “oh, you are disaster”.
The reason why nursery teachers and nurses are so popular is they give men a motherly feeling. To give men an unconditional love is the way to become popular.
- Don´t criticise
Men are the creatures who are proud. They don´t like being given advices, which they didn´t ask or being complained by women. They want to do all by themselves. So it´s important for girls to practice giving opinions in gentle way.
Never tell a man “you should do this” but give him a positive advice, “I prefer this way”. Then men can accept the girl´s opinion easily.
- Liesten to him
Men work hard towards women. They squeeze as many as topics to entertain girls and not to make them bored.
Iyashi-kei girls are good at asking right questions and continuing the conversations. That´s why men don´t get exhausted being with Iyashi girls. Not giving any pressure is the best thing for men.
- Have a big heart
Iyashi-kei girls have a big heart. Being with a woman who is always busy with studying or working doesn´t ease men.
The time passes slow, not talking about complicated things and always smiling when they are together give men a good impression about the girl. Feeling of accepted is the motherly feeling for men.
- Weat warm colour
Wear warm colour clothes is effective to attract men. Warm colour gives warmth and comfort, which make men relaxed.
It´s recommendable to wear warm colour clothes when you have a date and it will relax the man. Don´t dare wear vivid colour.
How did you find it?
Iyashi-kei girls are the key to be popular among boys. They are definitely more popular than busy career women. Tickle men´s heart and get them!
Tokio Shirotake / Haukore
Source : http://howcollect.jp/article/4197
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